Lea's Journey on Life After Divorce

When I first found out the divorce was imminent due to an affair, many emotions swept over me. From fear to anxiety to anger to “now what?”…

I was fortunate enough to have support from family and friends, but I also realized that at the end of the day I had to figure out “the holy grail” of life after divorce.

I was on the biggest emotional roller coaster ride. Just when I thought I was ok, I realized I wasn’t.

Being divorced 5 years, I have learned that it’s important to mourn and grieve the loss before moving on in any capacity.

I learned that it is important to honor one's feelings and emotions and allowing oneself to feel.

I had done the contrary. I decided to date as a distraction and as a way to soothe my pain only to realize that I wasn’t ready.

I had a lot of “unpacking" to do in order to embark on something new. With all the unpacking I needed to find me.

Having been married 36 years and being in a marriage was the only way I knew how to navigate my life.

I soon embarked on a new journey of self transformation and re aquatinting myself with me.

This is a never ending project but a well worth one.

I learned and am still learning to be ok with just me for now.

Lea Elfassy